There was nothing more frightening than when I sent my son to his first day of school.

It was the day I gave up control of his every activity and had to shove down the visions of him being inserted into a real life Lord of the Flies or Mean Girls.

Worse yet, were the memory flashes of my own youth where I engaged in the social wrangling that led me to me being a jerk, or being jerked around.

My great consolation, however, was the notion that times have changed. No longer is school a social experiment where strange behaviours are allowed to rage on unfettered, so long as teachings of the alphabet and basic numeric literacy are absorbed.

People talk about their feelings, and it鈥檚 become culturally acceptable now to walk to the beat of one鈥檚 own drum. We support each other.

Isn鈥檛 that why everyone and their dog marches off to the nearest big box to buy a pink shirt at the end of February? No more bullying? No more social isolation? No more judging people for not being like everyone else? Mistakes are forgiven?

I could have carried on with this belief of goodness for awhile, I think. My son鈥檚 doing well. He鈥檚 not perfect, nor is anyone around him, but the teacher is thoughtful and engaged and I no longer feel dread when I pull up to the school.

I was, however, disabused of this people-have-evolved myth earlier this month when news broke that a West 琉璃神社 student had said something stupid. His statement was then conflated with the horrors from school shootings in the US and ultimately expanded upon beyond reason, courtesy of the internet.

Fears of violence made headlines, while school officials went on saying 鈥渘o credible threat.鈥� Nobody seemed to care that both school officials and the Mounties were saying it, either. There was the internet to feed, pitchforks to sharpen, pink shirts to burn and a child and his parents to vilify.

Reason was thrown right out the window by presumably civilized people who talked about holding a public hearing for a boy to explain why he made mistake and said something that, in any other time, would have been recognized as simply ignorant, not cause for a witch hunt.

It was stomach turning, sad and wrong. It was also a great learning experience.

For one, times have changed and school officials need to acknowledge that. Canada is not an island. Borders do not stop the tide of fear created by American violence from seeping into this country鈥檚 collective consciousness.

It鈥檚 not sufficient to say 鈥渘o credible threat.鈥� People need to know what that means.

Communication is key.

It was also a chance for us to look at ourselves to take a deep breath. Breathe. Deeply. The system isn鈥檛 perfect. Other people鈥檚 kids aren鈥檛 perfect. Mostly, though, it鈥檚 OK. It鈥檚 OK and we have to have faith that when the RCMP and the schools have assessed a threat, it鈥檚 likely they鈥檝e done just that.

If we can鈥檛 trust that the system works, soon we won鈥檛 feel safe sending our children out the door.

And if you have questions or doubts, raise them. Raise them through the proper channels, respectfully and without causing harm to another.

Let鈥檚 not undermine the safety systems we have and give in to a mob mentality.

Being a parent is already frightening enough.